Teenager having a hard time? Struggling to know what to do to help them and bring harmony back to your family life? It isn’t easy, but you can get them through this difficult time, with love and patience, and here are a few things that will help:
1. The “Chill Out, Karen” Approach
First of all, stop overreacting. Yes, your teen just dyed their hair neon green and now communicates exclusively in grunts, but this isn’t the apocalypse.
Teens are biologically programmed to test boundaries, and while you may want to scream into a pillow, staying calm is key. Freak out later—in private, where no one can post it on TikTok.
2. Family Counselling: Group Therapy, but Make It Fun
If your household feels like a soap opera with less glamour and more shouting, family counseling can be a lifesaver. Think of it as a referee for your domestic WWE matches.
A trained therapist will help everyone air their grievances without anyone storming off mid-sentence (well, ideally). Plus, it’s cheaper than bailing your teen out of jail later.
3. Learn to Speak “Teen”
No, I’m not suggesting you start saying “lit” or “slay” unless you want to be the subject of their group chat mockery. But understanding their world—what they’re watching, listening to, or ranting about—is crucial.
Take an interest, even if their favourite YouTuber makes you question humanity. It’s all about building bridges, even if that bridge is built on Minecraft and Billie Eilish.
4. Set Boundaries Without Becoming a Dictator
Teens are like cats: they want freedom but also secretly crave structure. Setting clear boundaries (with actual consequences) is crucial.
Just don’t go overboard—confiscating their phone for forgetting to empty the dishwasher is not the hill you want to die on. Pick your battles wisely, and remember: Wi-Fi is the ultimate bargaining chip.
5. Encourage a Hobby That Isn’t Scrolling
A bored teen is a recipe for disaster. Help them find something they enjoy, whether it’s playing football, painting, or joining a band.
And no, Fortnite doesn’t count as a hobby. This is about channeling their energy into something productive rather than hurling insults at their siblings.
6. Check Your Own Luggage
Parenting a troubled teen can make anyone lose the plot, but before you lecture them on their temper tantrums, ask yourself: Am I being the calm, rational adult I’m demanding them to be?
Teens are walking lie detectors—they know when you’re projecting. If you’re stressed, overwhelmed, or just downright confused, deal with it. Therapy isn’t just for the kids, you know.
7. Don’t Forget the Snacks
This one’s simple: angry teens are often hangry teens. Keep the fridge stocked with their favourite foods (yes, even the overpriced ones).
It’s hard to slam a door when you’re busy stuffing your face with crisps.
8. Remember: This Too Shall Pass
One day, your sulky teen will (hopefully) turn into a functioning adult who occasionally calls to thank you for not disowning them. Until then, hold on tight, keep your sense of humour, and maybe invest in earplugs for the shouting. You’ve got this. Probably.
Teens can be tricky, especially when they are having a hard time, but instead of yelling (even when they yell at you, you need to work with them to support them through it all, and you know what? You got this!